posted 08-14-2001 05:41 PM PT (US)
You and I are on the same track today, Kat! Although, perhaps, going in different directions.) I nearly posted about this myself this morning (although, not as a rant - more something smaller along the lines of a "have you ever noticed that...").
I was thinking, this morning, about incidents that I've witnessed where women, when they've been rejected by some guy, will tend to try to invent some reason why he didn't accept her - and not just any old reason that might make sense, but instead a reason that simultaneously puts him down while complimenting herself. Specifically, the reason (excuse) I had in mind (which I've witnessed being used frequently), "I guess he just can't handle strong women such as myself!"
Nevertheless, there is truth to what you say. I was thinking about this as a result of browsing a woman's website. Here's why...check out this link and look at this woman's photo:
That woman in the photos on top, as well as the middle photo in the center frame, looks very pretty, very sexy, soft, feminine, even cuddly. The middle photo in the center frame is the photo that she uses for webcam voting lists and stuff - and that photo was (I'll be honest, here) the reason that I clicked to her site in the first place.
It's all false advertising.
I've been browsing her website and reading her message board for over a week now, and that woman is anything like what I described. She's not "pretty" - as a general rule, she doesn't wear make-up or sexy clothes, she's not soft in either appearance or demeanor, she can be very careless, hurtful, and abrasive with her words, she's not very feminine at all - I'd describe her as being about as cuddly as a cactus - or a scorpion.
BUT - she seems to me to be one quality human being. She's very bright, learned (she's a grad student - I know not what she's studying), she obviously keeps herself very fit and trim - I'd say she's someone to look up to, even.
Now my point: She is a much higher quality invdividual that I first assumed, based upon that very sexy/pretty photo of her that I first clicked on to reach her site, and yet the smart, strong, self-reliant individual that she is doesn't "trip the ol' trigger" quite the way that the sexy soft feminine woman in the above mentioned photo does. It's very bizarre.
And I find that realization to be quite disturbing.