posted 11-12-2002 05:38 PM PT (US)
Sheesh...another rant about kids...WHAT am I on today?! Incidentally, I tend to post these rants in response to threads elsewhere, and then copy them here just for fun.
Originally posted by Robin
You just don't get paid for it...unless you're a nanny or babysitter.
That's the attitude that is kind of what I was getting at with my thinking that it's reminiscent of the phrase, "It takes a village." The attitude essentially says, "I'm working very hard, its exhausting, I don't much care for it, and [poor me] I'm not getting paid."
But, gimme a break.
If you have a beautiful garden in your back yard - and you've planted and you maintain that garden because you love the garden, then you're not doing work, really - because the garden in and of itself is its own reward for doing the work.
Contrast that with if you hire someone to take care of the garden. For that person, taking care of the garden would be work, because that person isn't getting the benefit of the garden - they deserve and get the benefit of a paycheck - that person worked.
The same is true for "housework" - do you deserve to be paid for it if it's your house? "Gimme a break" - you're getting the benefit of the clean house. If you hire a housekeeper, then that person is doing work for which they deserve pay.
Imagine this: You go to a job that you don't particularly care for and slave for 10 hours in order to get paid. When you get home, you have a conversation with your rich neighbor who inherited a lot of wealth and who has a fascination with old cars. You mention what a tough and rough day you've had and that you're completely exhausted, to which he replies, "God, you're not kidding - me too! I've spent 7 hours working on my old Model T Fords and another 4 purchasing another one for my showroom. We working folk have it tough, don't we?"
You'd probably whack him over his head - he was playing...his work was a labor of love.
Your kids are your "Model T Fords" - you're playing - you're putting time and effort into something that is important to you, specifically - just like the neighbor does his cars.
"But wait, Ouro! If I didn't do it, my kids would be out terrorizing the neighborhood! Everyone else is benefitting as well!"
Yeah, right - that's the invalid "it takes a village" argument. It's not my fault that you didn't use protection when you stuck your legs up in the air for what probably amounted to 3 minutes of foreplay before you finished yourself off with a vibrating appliance. Keep control of your kids (teach'em not to put their hands on all of the cookies on the smeggin' cookie tray)! And don't expect any more sympathy for your "work" than anyone would give the neighbor for his "work" on his Model-Ts (would YOU pay him to work on his Model Ts?!)
[I seem to be in full "rant" mode tonight...hmm...I should spare you all by going to get the new LOTR and Star Wars DVDs...I'm outta here!]